Growing together and apart at the same time after 50
The children leave, parents need care, retirement looms and you both change. Here is why couples in midlife drift, what helps, and why some drifting is fine.
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When your oldest mate has become a stranger at the bar
Shared history keeps old school friendships going long after you’ve stopped sharing much else. How to tell a rough patch from a friendship that’s run its course, and what to do next.
Antidepressants and your sex life: the side effect to raise
Millions of people in England take antidepressants, and many quietly lose their libido as a result. Here is what SSRIs and SNRIs can do, and what your GP can change.
Too old for the interview? How to fight age bias
Turned down for a job because you’re the wrong side of 50? The Equality Act 2010 covers applicants too. Here’s how Acas conciliation, tribunals and compensation actually work.
Antidepressants and your sex life: the talk your GP owes you
Sexual side effects from antidepressants are common, rarely discussed and often fixable. What NHS guidance expects from your GP, and what to ask at your next appointment.
Real man or just really tired? Life after 50
The kids have gone, work matters less and the streaming apps keep multiplying. A blunt look at how British men past 50 can avoid drifting and build a life worth getting up for.
Living together but not married? The law isn’t on your side
Millions of British couples share a home, a sofa and a Netflix password but not a marriage certificate. When things go wrong, the law treats them as strangers.
The silent divorce: still married, already gone
You share a house, a fridge and a Netflix login, but you stopped being a couple some time ago. How to spot a silent divorce, and what you can do about it.
Love after 50: less fireworks, more slow-burning fire
After 50, love is less about grand gestures and more about who remembers how you take your tea. That’s not settling for less. It might be the best deal going.
Age discrimination at work: the policy folder isn’t enough
Most employers have an equality policy. Fewer can show it does anything. Here’s what the law requires, how age discrimination works in practice, and who actually holds employers to account.
Back to the office: can your boss make you go?
Bosses are ordering staff back to their desks, sometimes with a week’s notice. What your contract, the flexible working law and Acas actually say, and how to push back sensibly.
Can AI give your council time to pick up the phone?
Small councils say they can’t afford to go digital. Shared open-source code and AI could change that, but only if the time they save goes back to residents rather than being cut.